how long

my experience has been that when you meet someone, either the romantic chemistry is mutual, or it isn't, and that this is established early on. there might be a period of weeks or maybe months before it becomes mutual, but longer than that usually means it won't happen.

of course, i dont know you or your girl, so what im saying is a generalization and based on my own experience (this is always my disclaimer btw). but if she's known you for a year and a half and you dig her and she's not there with you, then you should probably move on.

the worst feeling in the world (and i've said this before too) is waking up one day and realizing you've wasted a whole stretch of time pursuing someone when you could have been with someone else who you love and who loves you back in the same way.

I have feelings for someone in my town, younger than me ( of course ) I haven't bothered telling her yet, since she's only been single for a short time. But i notice that keeps staring at me, im not sure if it's in disbelief that i'm staring at her back, or the fact she thinks im ugly and doesn't want to know me. I have spoken to her, i get along with her quite well. Thanks to my magical B.O.T speech a could of years ago at high school. Everyone laughed at my performance and i got quite popular afterwards. But because i was an interdependent person i never like the spot light on me ( This is very true )      

Only thing i'm worried about is the fact im hopeless with relationships. I'm not worried about being rejected a lot of times lol.

I'm the type of person who if you want a relationship with me you gotta be living with me for it to work properly. I like long term relationships than short fling like relationships.

Hear is some history: I am 20, male and i have this friend and her and i have been freinds for now going on for a year and a half and we are like best friends. I have alway had mor than friends feeling for her and at one time i expressed those feelings to her and she didnt shoot me down, she said she had alot going on in her life and she dont want nothin at the moment. She says she loves me but she just dont know what kind of love it is... i droped it right there cause i didnt want to push nothin. It is like maybe like a year latter and we brought it up for some reason. She told me that she could see us together but she dont want to lose what we have so we both agreed that what happens happens and if it happens it happens, we not going to push anything.
My questions are
1. What can i do to show her that we perfect with out pushing into things2. How long should i wait for her to deside.

-mastermind83501

Once you hit serious frienship status, it is very difficult to break through that and become more, not impossible, but not easy. You need to act a certain way that will have her more attracted to you, but you need to understand, she must appreciate everything you two have and not want to risk it in a relationship that may go awry down the road.

you know that is very true pooltoy, and to be honest thats exactly was i was thinking to.... i dont want to be waiting and that one person comes comes along and i miss her while waiting..... thanx you dude for the advice

you know that is very true pooltoy, and to be honest thats exactly was i was thinking to.... i dont want to be waiting and that one person comes comes along and i miss her while waiting..... thanx you dude for the advice

-mastermind83501

glad to help.  you'll come through and soon be in the relationship you deserve to be in.

you know that is very true pooltoy, and to be honest thats exactly was i was thinking to.... i dont want to be waiting and that one person comes comes along and i miss her while waiting..... thanx you dude for the advice

-mastermind83501

If she had the same feelings as you, I think she would have expressed it to you somehow, someway.  A special look, a special touch on your arm, something that is more personal, just a small step, to let you know that she cares about you in a special way.  Maybe not love but
a step closer than just friends.  If she hasn't done that, then maybe
she doesn't have romantic feelings toward you.  If your good friends, maybe it's time to tell her.
Of coarse if this all falls apart and she hates you after, this is all
p00ltoys fault.

Sometimes the best friendships should remain friendships.

Suggest a sitution that could lead to her reveal her feelings - like a simple night out.